“There is only one happiness in-this-life, to love and be loved.”
Falling in Love with someone, your perfect match, is one of the greatest feelings in the world. However, it is not unusual to fall in Love with the wrong partner before you get to the right person.
For many centuries philosophers have believed that we only fall for three different types of people throughout our lives. The “one who makes us do stupid things,” “the one who breaks us,” and “that doesn’t need a special reason.”
1. The first love
“The heart wants what it wants.”
We normally experience first loves at a very young age, often at our high schools. It’s called “idealistically love” and we mainly find this lover at our college. This is the type of Love we see in fairytales and Hollywood movies. The partners will have high expectations about the relationship and believe that they will get married and live in a lovely house happily ever after.
This Love is theatrical and highly romantic, so we would do anything in order to make it last as much as possible. Then it comes to a point where our principles get unimportant. We somehow will want the relationship to work and try to think that is how “real love” is supposed to be.
2. The second love
“We are shaped and fashioned by who we love.”
Second Love is much simpler and more accessible compared to the original. This Love will not require us to understand who we are as individuals, our partners, or where we want to go in our lives. As we are much younger and immature, this Love will make it easy for us to manipulate, lie, deceive, and get hurt more often by others.
As a result, we will make mistakes, forgive, and makeup again and again until we finally give up on the relationship altogether. This Love usually ends in heartache and tears in our eyes. But this relationship will make us strong and wiser. Ultimately, we will learn the type of person who deserves our trust and heart.
3. The third and final love
“I want all of you. Your flaws, your mistakes, and your imperfections.”
By this time, I know Love is no longer a fairy tale. I have gone through Love to great depths and had my fair share of emotional pain. The third kind of romance will come into our lives unexpectedly. At first, when we meet this person, we may think that we do not want to be in any relationship with them because their character does not fit with ours. However, this Love will be unanticipated and arrive out of nowhere.
These factors will make our connection very strong and passionate. Our bond will not be dramatic and romantically beautiful as the previous relationships. Still, it will give us far better peace of mind and security. We will no longer need to hide our flaws and faults as they will accept us just as we are. Even though I never thought I would end up with this type of person, I will be much happier from within.
For a person they can take a lifetime to learn the lessons of Love, or if you’re lucky, you might grasp all of them within a few years. We’ve seen people who fell in Love at the age of fifty plus and get married. We’ve also seen people who’ve been married for many years and still love their spouses passionately. This third type of Love can come into your life at any age, and once you find it, it’s forever.